Remember you are not alone for many people suffer such huge losses and other unfortunate events in their lives. One way to look at all these unfortunate events is that everything happens for a reason. We may not like it. We may not understand. But all happens for a reason.

You may have heard of instances where someone says something like such and such terrible thing happened to me but now I see it was the best thing to ever happen to me because, I learned this….and went on to become that… It is true, our greatest sufferings lead to our greatest growth as human beings, if we pay attention and learn from them. So just keep this tucked in the back of your mind and it will become clearer later.

For the present, you must work on your mindset and work on it hard. You must put daily focus on changing your mindset. This is the way it works in a nutshell: Whatever thoughts you have grow and then become your reality. That means if  you think about bad things, things you don’t want, your lack of things that you do want – you will bring all these negative things/occurrences into your life.

You don’t want that. You want good things, happy things, right? So only think positive thoughts. The way to start is to be grateful for what you do have at this moment. Sit quietly and write down all the things you are grateful for – a roof over your head, people who love you, a pet, whatever you can think of even if it is very small. Think only good thoughts. When your mind goes back to negative thoughts, stop immediately. Then think of a positive thought. This may seem impossible, but it is not! I did it and other people can do it too. It takes practice, dedication and commitment to changing your life.

This is a start. It is a small step, but an important one. You may have to spend an hour a day or more when you first start. I often spent longer than that! But the pay-off is magnificent!! Eventually, you will look at all of life with joy, wonder and happiness. You will see seemingly negative things in a positive light. You will become immune to negative thinking. Please try it. 

Remember you are a worthy human being, and you are loved.